Why I Took A Month Off Blogging and Considered Quitting

Hello, Hello!

 

How have you been this past month? Good I hope. Have I missed much?

Well, what started as an unintended week off from blogging seems to have ended up spanning a whole month, which is the longest i’ve not blogged for in all the 7 years I’ve been doing it!

Seven years of blogging 2-3 times a week.

Seven years of outfit photos and ramblings.

Seven years of sharing on the internet.

Its been quite the journey.

I was always afraid to take anytime off from blogging previously, if i had a holidays planned I would write and schedule content before hand or I would ask some friends to contribute for me. The longest i ever went was a week and that was down to the summer holidays and being busy with kids. I always felt guilty if I didn’t blog, not so much for the readers as i know you’re not all waiting with baited breathe to see what Rachel’s going to post next 😉 But it was more of a if i’m not a blogger, what am I? Which is a rather big question to ask oneself and I’m still not sure of the answer if i’m honest.

I also worried i would loose traffic, followers and page views etc. But it got to the point where it just wasn’t flowing for me. It wasn’t fun anymore, and although this has been my job/income for the past 3 years and jobs aren’t always fun, that I grant you, I felt really disconnected by the whole thing. I would find myself sat at my laptop just browsing the internet, shopping way too much out of boredom and just generally not feeling very inspired. A whole day could pass and i would have just written a couple of paragraphs and maybe edited some photos. It just felt like i was wasting my own time.

And to be perfectly honest I just ran out of words.

I kept proffering the idea of new posts in diary format or new updates and even dabbled with the idea of mini blogs everyday to coincide with my insta daily outfit, but nothing stuck.

So one week bled in to the next and before i know it a full month has passed!

And today marks the month to the date. So I decided to write about it 🙂

This month has been BUSY! I have been more hands on with my kids, less worried about what i wear (to the point where i’m only posting maybe 3 outfits a week on insta, which is massively down on the 7 days a week i was!), I’ve done far more around the house and we’ve even started tackling some big renovations; front garden is done, conservatory converted to a games room, now we are on to the refurb of the kitchen and then on to our main downstairs living/dining room before we go upstairs and tackle the bathroom.. it has been go, go, go and it’s felt amazing!

My mind has been present and in the moment more, I’ve been less worried about taking outfit pics and more about playing outside with my son and I’ve been ploughing any spare funds and energy in to the renovations in our house, which so far has been so rewarding.

If you’ve been a long time reader here then you may have seen this coming. Since January I have felt a shift and not known what to do with it.

So, what does this mean?

Well, after a lot of thinking i’ve decided i’m not going to quit the blog. I did wonder if i should just leave it here and walk away, but i realised in true Rachel form (i am the first to admit i am fickle!) I knew i would change my mind if i just called it quits for good and i would want back in at some point.

And true enough i kind of do, as sat here typing and letting these words just stream out feels kind of nice!!

But going forward I am going to blog when I want. I’m not going to have a fixed structure of so many times a week, or certain days or certain posts even. I’m just going to blog. I guess i’m reverting back to hobby status, which makes me feel happier just at the thought of it.

I’m taking the pressure off and letting whatever happens just happen. And that will mean blogging whenever the mood strikes.

I’ve also found my style to be super casual and repetitive lately, of which I’m actually really fine with. Its what i call ‘Unremarkable dressing’ in the sense of, its nothing to remark upon, just a nice top and jeans perhaps, but it looks smart and is comfy which is just what i need on the daily. I’m no longer buying things that will gain lots of ‘likes’, i.e the attention grabbing pieces, i’m just all about the normal lately. Normal and unremarkable.. totally selling it to you here aren’t I?! Ha!! But it’s what I’m finding myself happy in. Honestly the thought of being trussed up in a frilly pretty dress and heels to do another B&Q run does not fill me with joy…Practical has pretty much been the call of the day most days (with the occasional pretty blouse thrown in.. like the one above that i grabbed from the dregs of the M&S sales rails) and that’s ok with me.

I do have some cool stuff coming up so i will be sure to show and share and even though i’ve been looking at house stuff there may have been the odd try on/ new piece here or there so outfits will be shared soon i’m sure.

But yes, this is me checking in, letting you all know that I’m alive and actually feeling pretty damn good.

Hope you’re all ok with this and understand that its most definitely not you, its me  LOL!! But no seriously it actually is me.

 

Anyway, enough about me, how are you?

 

Rxx

 

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17 Comments

  1. May 2, 2018 / 1:43 pm

    Good for you Rachel ! Go with your heart… I have never forced myself, in fact consistent isn’t I my vocabulary I’m crap at being consistent.
    I aim to please myself and luckily that pleases others! I’ve only been properly Blogging for 5 years but I too would expect burnout at 7 you poor girl!
    Enjoy your new style Blogging
    Best
    Ashley
    Xxx

  2. May 2, 2018 / 2:18 pm

    So glad you’re not quitting! But I totally understand where you’re coming from; I took a couple of weeks at Easter to step back from blogging and it was the best decision ever. I just wasn’t enjoying sitting at the keyboard and hashing out half-hearted posts and needed a new perspective.

    I love unremarkable dressing – I’m so here for the whole ‘jeans and a cute top’ trend!

  3. May 2, 2018 / 2:36 pm

    I personally prefer hobby-type blogs to the lavish and glossy ‘proper’ blogs so I look forward to your new content – and welcome back x

  4. Val
    May 3, 2018 / 12:15 pm

    That month flew by! I think you are doing the right thing. There are so many things we HAVE to do in life rather than WANT to do. Blogging isn’t one of them. Although free clothes etc., are a bonus are they really free? As long as you have enough money to get by, spending time with family and friends is much more important. A face to face chat trumps electronic conversation any day. And we get a bit caught up in buying stuff. I love reading fashion, sewing and lifestyle blogs, keeping on trend with what’s happening and now, for older people like me, there’s the grey revolution going on too 😂 But I don’t expect anyone to run themselves ragged to post at certain intervals. It needs to be fun or else it is just a job and needs set hours. I’m glad you are going to carry on with the blog at a pace that suits you. You’ll enjoy it again and I’m sure that we will all be looking forward to your next post, be it in a week’s time or even further down the line.

  5. May 3, 2018 / 12:50 pm

    I’m fine and to be honest I get where you’re coming from. I’m at this post where I’m slowly loosing my passion for blogging and this is due to all these new changes and intense pressure with social media which makes this less fun. But I’m going back to keeping blogging as a hobby and have started only posting blogs and writing when I want to as well as taking a little pressure off of myself. So yes, we understand, that’s life really.

    Princess Audu

  6. May 3, 2018 / 11:51 pm

    I’ve also been blogging since 2011 and like you, had a little break for a holiday. Like you, running out of inspiration.

    So I just blog once a week. Every Wednesday for my long running Wardrobe Wednesday series.

    I don’t think it’s just you or just me. It’s blogging too. It’s changed massively in Australia and I’m guessing the same in the UK too?

  7. May 4, 2018 / 1:57 pm

    hobby blogging is still fun. I blog because it still catches me but like you I don’t buy stuff to wear on the blog, I buy because I like it. I have expanded into travel and food and crafts and my cat and well what I want and it has been fun. Good for you and I for one am happy you don’t want to disappear

  8. shelbeeontheedge1
    May 4, 2018 / 6:43 pm

    Rachel, good for you for taking a break and reassessing. We all need to do that every now and again. Life is too short to waste it away blindly going through the motions. I never realized how difficult it was to pull myself away from blogging until this past weekend I just stopped and took 5 days off and it felt amazing! And no one is any worse off, especially not me. I look forward to seeing the direction you decide to go now! Many blessings to you.

    Shelbee
    http://www.shelbeeontheedge.com

  9. May 5, 2018 / 5:23 pm

    Good on you, Rachel, you have to do what your soul is telling you. It’s impossible to remain authentic when your heart is not quite in it. I’m rather looking forward to seeing where this blog is going from hereon xo

  10. May 7, 2018 / 8:53 am

    Well said Rachel. I just took a 10 day holiday minus Wifi – thought it was about time the husband had my undivided attention. Usually I’m frantically trying to establish a connection in some far-flung hotel room but this time I merely posted ‘out of office’. Strangely enough the world did not stop turning and people were prepared to wait for their Color Analysis until my return I’m delighted to say. Putting pressure on yourself is like reverting to the rat-race – take your time and enjoy your family, your input will be all the richer!
    Pamela http://www.style-yourself-confident.com

  11. mummabstylish
    May 11, 2018 / 8:29 am

    I did wonder if you were okay, glad you are and well done for doing what you needed – I know I’ve become a bit obsessed with blogging and the kids tell me don’t worry if a post doesn’t go out on time etc. We all need a break, welcome back – looking forward to seeing you. Jacqui Mummabstylish Oh and I’ve started a weekly #linkup!!

  12. May 11, 2018 / 10:31 am

    I think a break from blogging is totally okay! We take vacations from full-time jobs, so a blogging vacation should be okay too. It can be a lot to do this and then a lot of people in your life really don’t get all the time you put into it. But I’m glad you’re not quitting!

  13. thestylesplash
    May 12, 2018 / 7:18 pm

    Well I’m very pleased to hear you’re not quitting Rachel! I started blogging in 2011 too (although I only posted sporadically for the first few years and nobody read my blog!) so I know how it feels to need a break. I almost quit about 18 months ago because it was taking up a lot of time which pissed my husband off and caused arguments. But when he realised how miserable I was at the prospect of packing it all in he told me to keep going. Now we have a compromise and he understands when I’m busy. I do have times where I run out of inspiration though and sometimes when that happens it means you need to take a break for sanity’s sake! Welcome back 🙂

    Emma xxx
    http://www.style-splash.com

  14. May 22, 2018 / 8:33 am

    It sounds like balance has been restored in your life thanks to the break and your thoughts on it. We can do anything but not everything! I am glad you are feeling happier. That’s the most important thing in the end xx

  15. May 23, 2018 / 5:28 pm

    Sometimes we feel of quitting the task that we do everyday. It needs courage. Wish you the best!!

  16. Rosemary Davis
    May 25, 2018 / 8:18 pm

    Good for you Rachael! Balance in all things makes us most happy. Many times we don’t realize how out of balance we have become until we stop. Glad you are back and looking forward to your new posts. Enjoy the holiday weekend with your friends and family.

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