Being a ‘Style Blogger’ is a funny old game, you constantly strive to have some of the latest and greatest trends, to keep up, to represent, to be with all the others as this is after all, style blogging.
But there are times when i grow tired of keeping up with the InstaJones'(this is no-one in-particular by the way, its just a name i’ve given to the likes of those who manage to bag all the latest trends and pieces and constantly shop), there are times when i simply can’t afford to keep up too if i’m being honest. I make a small part time wage from blogging, I have a big family to feed and we have stuff constantly that we have to do. We make ends meet and sometimes that means no buying for me, or very little at the least.
When I see people on Instagram and blogs constantly wearing new things, going shopping and flatlays with brand new pieces every day, week in week out, it can sometimes leave me feeling as flat as a flat lay. I can’t keep up and that’s the truth of it.
You never just hear anyone say “Oh heck, I’m bloomin’ skint this month ay!”
Maybe it’s not the done thing to say on social media, but honestly.. It is the truth with me sometimes. So i’m saying it!
Learning that that’s ok is hard i think. We see this constant turn over of clothes, we see everyone ably making purchases each and every week and it seems like the norm.
But that’s not my norm. Normal to me is making ends meet, spending £130 a week on food shopping to feed 3 kids the husband and me, and then more again for the 2 dogs. The normal is trying to save for an extension on our house, but failing because the Step daughter wants Ed Sheeran tickets or needs Art supplies for her coursework, or my son’s party with friends costing an arm and a leg. Not to mention trying to keep a little aside for Christmas (its only 3 paydays away after all!). In a busy household like ours there is always something to spend money on.
And it can’t always be clothes.
I’m not moaning, if i sound like i am i apologise, i have lots to be so grateful for and i truly am, and if people can go out 3 times a week and shop then bloody well good for them.
But simply put, i can’t.
And that’s ok!
I’ve overdone it a bit lately myself (autumn new season gets me every time.. its my favourite time of year!), a couple of dresses here, a pair of boots there and really, that money should be going in to our savings. The guilt sets in and as much as i enjoy my purchases and it helps towards content for my blog and IG, i probably could have done without them.
So I’m vowing to shop my wardrobe more. I’m vowing to not get sucked in to the feeling of constantly wanting new items all the time and I truly don’t need for anything right now so have no need to shop.
I’m going to do a no clothes/shoes spend in October for the whole month, drop me a comment below if you’d like to join me!
But more than that its learning to be happy and not worry about keeping up with others, its learning to know that i’m ok just as i am.
As for the outfit, well this shirt is older than my son, or there abouts. I found it in my attic storage and thought i’d breathe some new life in to it. The cropped jeans have definitely been worth all of the ten pounds i spent on them too. And the loafers were just £3 when i got them to the till. The lovely soft lightweight Draper is from LOTD and is marvellously budget friendly (they often have large percentages off , at the moment it’s 25% off with code AML25) which works well with my ever tight shopping budget. Its also perfectly in this super mild weather we’re having at the moment too.
Anyway, i never expected this post to be such a ramble, but you know me, honesty is all i know.
So October no spend…bring it on!
Shop the look (if y’know, you really want to of course 😂)