Today i’m hitting you up with the third instalment in the #BodyPositivity series, a series i’ve implemented here on RTH as we all need regularly reminding how absolutely amazing our bodies are, how we all come in different, shapes, sizes and colours and how each one of them is equally amazing.
For years I have constantly berated my body, told myself i am not as good as someone else, how my tummy isn’t flat or taught enough, how my boobs aren’t big enough and how my thighs have way too much thunder.
But its time to stop.
In the LuckyThings Meetup on Sunday we had an inspiring talk about dressing with confidence. Now for me dressing isn’t my problem, I love getting dressed and clothes are my armour; its whats underneath I’ve never been that keen on!
We can all ring off a list of parts of ourselves we hate as quick as a wink ( i mean i managed to still get them in in the opening paragraph for crying out-loud, stealthily snuck them right in there), but if you sit a woman down and ask her to list 5 things she like about herself she will struggle and just point out more of her flaws.
The stylist Lucy at our talk says this happens every time she styles a lady client, however when styling a man they are normally quite at ease with pointing out their best bits.
Funny isn’t it, how it seems to be ingrained in women to not accept compliments from others OR to even accept our own good points?
Its time we all start to change this, too long has this gone on, from one generation of ladies to another.
Just imagine that!
So here’s the thing:
List 5 things you like about yourself.
Yep, at first you will do exactly what i did and think
“5? I cant even think of 1!”
“Oh i don’t know about good, but i don’t like this, and this and this”
But really, we can do this, it just takes a little bit of courage and a little bit of self belief.
When i start down this road i always fear of coming across as big headed or showy, hence why i am also terrible at embracing my strengths, i class myself as a woman who is very down to earth, what you see is what you get, but there is absolutely no harm in being happy with the woman i am? Its not bragging or boasting, its about having a positive attitude towards yourself, which is what we all deserve to have.
The more positive vibes you feel for yourself the more you radiate on to others too.
5 Things I like about ME
At 5ft 6 i’m quite tall and i like it. For years i hunched over to make myself appear shorter. All i wanted was to be short and the same size as my petite girlfriends. But i like how clothes never have to be altered and that i can often see above a crowd 😉
2. My hair is my crowning glory
Neither curly nor straight and extremely course, after years of wrangling it i have learned what works best for it, how to style it and how to manage it. I like that it holds a curl for days and can also be straightened.
3. My small boobs
I am finally at a place where i am happy to embrace something i have hated most of my adult life.
4. Strong legs
I have very strong long legs, these bad boys carry me around a lot and yet i never previously gave them any credit.
5. My shoulders
I like how my shoulders are slender and elegant (even if i am not in the slightest bit elegant, ha!)
Done, done and done!
I’m not going to lie, yes that was hard to do, but wow, it feels great to actually send myself praise instead of negativity.
I’ve asked some friends the same question:
Bristol Based Mama of 2
1. My Legs:
I’m 5ft 9 and love being tall
2. My Eyes:
To quote Tyra Banks’ Girl you gotta ‘smize” (That’s smile with your eyes) I like to think i do this on a very regular basis! Plus they’re a nice blue.
3. My Teeth:
I always hated my teeth and was really self conscious of them as they ere wonky so i had a fixed brace for a year which came off late last year and now they’re off i spend most of my time smiling!
4. My Arms:
I’m blessed with slim arms whenever i exercise (which is rarely) my arms are the first to tone up- i really should do it more often!
5. My Hips
I a classic pear and after years of hating them, covering them up wherever possible etc, i am finally learning to love, embrace and show off these bad boys. My mum always told me they’d make child birth easier and 2 super quick births later i can confirm shes right!
And please welcome
Mama of 2 and Vintage enthusiast
1. Marilyn eat your heart out:
After battling with my changing shape after pregnancy, I now embrace my curves and love that my hourglass figure allows me to wear my beloved vintage dresses.
2. My baby blues:
I have always been told I speak with my eyes, I like that I have big eyes that hold a lot of expression.
3. Legs Eleven:
I was always lanky in my youth and as a teenager I resembled a baby giraffe learning to walk but I’ve grown into my limbs now and like that I have long legs, even if it means I usually have jack ups!
4. A bit cheeky:
I have dimples when I smile and my children have inherited them, I like our smiles have their own fan club.
I feel like after experimenting for years with short hair, long hair, dark hair, highlights and all sorts, I’ve found a colour and style that feels like me…for now anyway!
Aren’t they fabulous? Absolutely amazing ladies, thank you for sharing!
So here is where i ask you dear reader/friend/gorgeous lady. This isn’t just an exercise for me, this is to hopefully encourage you and all women to love themselves a bit more each day. By highlighting our positives it weighs out some of the negative thoughts we all have day in day out.
In the comments below write 5 Things you love about your body.
Think about it but not to much, just write and see what comes out.. I promise afterwards you will feel fantastic!