I recently mentioned on Instagram this exact question after finding myself not wearing certain items of my wardrobe.
Here's what i said:
"Do you ever feel like you can't wear something
because it's not common practice in your social environment?
I live in a small cluster of towns in the welsh valleys, Beddau, pontyclun,Talbot green Llantrisant are my usual stomping grounds. Small towns surrounded by rolling hills and farms. Its fairly common to be stuck behind a tractor and see multiple persons out and about in jodhpurs and muddy boots, dog walkers dressed up in their warmest wears and funny hats, this is just general town-country life.
But here's the thing. There is very much a 'social norm' when it comes to dressing around these parts.
When you're out and about the general consensus is usually jeans (skinny, bootcut, straight), body warmers or coats and sensible shoes.
Because of this, i find myself dressing down more to fit in to this 'social norm' not wanting to step outside of the non-trend and wear what i actually want to wear.
I seem to have created an invisible line of constriction that I'm unprepared to cross.
But it's nobody's doing but me.
In my mind I have curated lists of commonly acceptable outfits that goes a little something like:
Skinny jeans and sweater = OK
Faux Leather = NO CHANCE
Sensible walking boots= Yes to the norm
OTK boots for day wear = What are you thinking?
...You get the idea
I do this to fit in and blend in fear of standing out, but really what does it matter? I don't know most of the people i see each day. We are merely passers by in each others life, without a second thought to one another afterwards. Judgement, if passed, is fleeting and really, why should i care?
So why do i restrict myself?
It comes down to the need of approval and security.
But when i really got to thinking about it, the only person it effects is myself, right? So why am i relying on complete strangers approval to vindicate myself?
Dressing each day is my creative outlet, i can't paint, i can't draw. Dressing in what i want is part of who i am.
So wear the damn skirt, rock the OTK boots and wear that red fluffy coat. If it makes you happy.. wear it.
Here are some of the quotes from the lovely Ladies of Instagram
I think it does the soul good to step outside of the box and reminding yourself its ok to not blend in.
It's ok to be a peacock and show those brightly coloured beautiful feathers in all of their majestic glory, whether that be with leather skirts, silver shoes or a bright red furry coat.
Wear what you want.
Dress in what you love.
After all, as the old saying goes, life isn't a dress rehearsal!