Will power was never my strong point, but as i get older i do feel my will power growing stronger (i'm making it sound like a super power here, just call Me WillPowerWoman) and making plans and sticking to them is more obtainable.
Its worth noting here, from personal experience i have most definitely found that you can only achieve goals when you are ready.
January 1st will make no difference to you if mentally you are not ready to do something.
Three years ago i knew i wanted to loose weight, only to start a crash diet on jan 1st with a super health kick and detox, only to epicly fail by Jan 6th..which is a total bummer mentally.
I don't give out much advice on here, but the one thing i would say is:
Start when you are ready.
Not Jan 1st, not when someone tells you, but when you are mentally in that place.
I started Slimming world in April 2013 just because i finally felt like i could commit. It was like a switch flicked in my head and i was ready. And with that i stuck to my healthy lifestyle and lost a total of 3 stone (of which I've piled back on about 10 lbs this winter..my boyfriend jeans are now skinny jeans god damn it!)
SO with that in mind, these aren't your typical new years resolutions but things i will be aiming to achieve this year, as and when i am ready.
Photos from both my lightest and heaviest (ohmagod) stages
As i mentioned above, i lost a total of 3 stone on Slimming World. It worked for me better than any crash course diet. Its a healthy eating lifestyle that is forever. And with that in mind i'm putting myself back on it. Its so easy to fall back in to bad habits (fajitas and nachos are my weakness.. in-fact all Mexican food, i think i was Mexican in a previous life, just pass me my sombrero)
I truly believe everything is in moderation, so I'm not going to completely cut myself of from that delirious spicy cuisine, but i am going to eat a better diet with treats saved for one day a week.
I need to loose about 7 lbs to get back to my happy weight. And with a little more activity in my life i will hopefully attain this, which leads me to:
Ugh.. is it wrong that this is something i totally dread? Like the thought of physical activity makes me shudder to my core. This is something i need to seriously work on. And i know a complete mental shift on this is not going to be easy..I need to find an exercise i enjoy, that will keep me wanting to do it, something I'm yet to discover. If you have any exercise suggestions for a complete couch potato i would love to hear.
This is something Salvatore and i started doing last year, but alas Christmas, children's birthdays and car problems pretty much ate in to what we had saved.
It is imperative this year that we save, save, save. I won't go in to too many details, but if you've been with me here for a long time (3+ years) you will know the ordeal we went through when we lost everything and said goodbye to our business. It was hellish, awful and the worst time ever. We've come so far but there's still a long road ahead of us. Saving £££ is part of our long road.
Negating from the savings, because y'know, needs must, I have a couple of plans for this home of ours this year. My son and step son share a bedroom, its small, and post-christmas i couldn't even see the floor for a carpet of toys. It was ridiculous. So binbags in hand Salv and i took to tackling the monstosity that was their bedroom. A full day later and about 20 bags for charity, they now have a new room complete with Marvel wallpaper, wall mounted TV with gaming area and all they need now is some funky new beds. My boys are so lovely, they don't ask for anything and i would give them the world if i could, so to do this for them in the not so distant future would be a real happy moment.
And for me? A new sofa.. I hate my sofa with a passion (i know strong words for a sofa, but honestly the thing is the bane of my life with its stupid scatter cushions and annoyingly rough texture!) I would love to replace this old thing with something that comfortably seats the whole family for our film nights.
This looks perfect for our large family, comfy, cosy and functional. With there being so many of us here sometimes (we're a big happy 'Blended' family) its imperative we have an accommodating sofa. I'm working on Salvatore, at the moment he's not convinced (see the savings point.. god damn it!)
I've been harbouring some inner dreams for years. One is Yosa which i am trying my very best to make a success and I have some new ideas and plans for Yosa in 2016, which I'm sure I'll share with you lovely lot at some point (probably when i know what it is exactly myself.. needless to say, I'm not quite there yet)
But there is another ambition i have been dreaming of for years.
I would love to improve my writing skills. This blog has always been a release, but sometimes talking of just my outfit gives me complete writers block.
I was an A* English student, and whilst i was absolute rubbish at maths (still am.. that's what calculators are for!) English writing was always my forte. My grammer and punctuation is somewhat to be desired, but 2016 is the year I'm putting it out there.
I would love to do a creative writing course and improve my skills. The dream, one day, to write a book... Its scary to even type and makes me feel more than a little vulnerable. Why? Because i hate failing. And to admit something out loud is a little daunting and holds be accountable somewhat.
I'm hoping to elaborate on this over the coming weeks, but yep. ..
Its out there now. I want to write... what i'll be writing who knows, but its a skill set that i feel will be invaluable to me.
SO blogging for 4 and a half years.. is just CRAY CRAY.. How did that happen? I am still loving it, infact i probably love it more now than when i first started. I've found my own natural rhythm and don't stress (too much) if i don't get things out on the exact schedule. A lot of you have been with me for some time, and i know you will forgive me and bear with me when needs must, so a huge thank you for sticking around.
This year i don't have huge plans.. i would love to grow my readership of course, but i would also like to get to know you more. I want to be more social, which is something I've lacked over the past year. I want to start joining in more on twitter conversations, i most definitely want to start replying to all comments (shall be working on that one asap) and visiting blogs more.
#Passion4Fashion will continue to run every Friday and I'm super happy with the new Blog look.
Post wise i am aiming for my twice weekly outfit posts, monthly Insta-outfits and then some shopping posts in-between, things I've spotted, trends i like/ things i don't like. I want to start creating more fashion posts that aren't based around outfit photos.
Looking back through the ol' archives to dig out pics for this post i couldn't help but notice the style change of the past 4 years. I have made some MAJOR changes to my style.
There's a pattern. Each year i am simplifying more and more. And this year will be the same. I'm drawn to a very simple colour palette of black, white, navy, grey and khaki. I love the odd dash of cobalt blue and a pop of red. But generally the aforementioned are where I'm at.
I'm excited to see if this year takes me to even simpler outfits. I'm really tempted to do give the whole capsule-36 items- thing a go, but alas, one thing i know about myself is that i am fickle. Mrs Fickle infact, and if i changed my mind i know i would be disappointed in myself.
But simpler, yes.
Currently i only want to add black and white(and cream) things to my wardrobe.
Its a great way of making me stop and think before i buy anything and limiting my options is a good thing for the gimme-all-the-stuff side of my brain.
I'm looking at different textures and remix-ability for wardrobe staples. And of course i still have a ton of colourful pieces already that i can add in when needs be.
I'm actually giving myself a strict budget of £50.00 a month to shop with, kinda like pocket money. If i want something that is more, then i will have to save for it. There's already two things on my list which are both way over my budget, but yes.. so far so good (she says and its only the 4th Jan.. ask me again next week)
And thats it. World changing things they are not, but for me they are life changing to some degree of another. I hope you will keep me accountable and i'm excited to get started on my plans.