Tuesday, 25 February 2014

Update: Half Way Through #100daynospend (!!)



Its official i am 50 days in to the self-inflicted 100 day no spend, so i thought i'd do a little half way update to let you know how i'm getting on.
First things first, i have not enjoyed this past 50 days per-se, however it has not been as difficult as i thought it would be.
I mentioned a couple of weeks ago that i was finding it hard, which at that point was tough, it seems i have difficult times and plane sailing- easy going times, but mostly..it's actually ok.
I guess the main thing i have learnt is how fleeting feelings and cravings can be.
I was crushing on, like you wouldn't believe(!!), a light pink fluffy boyfriend style jacket, as seen on lots of bloggers at the moment.
I wanted it so badly, i pinned it on Pintrest, i sent links to the support group on twitter and i gazed lovingly at it in New Look.
 As much as i craved it i haven't bought it (because of the no-spend) and it seems my life, the blog and me getting dressed every morning continues to go on...without the pink jacket. Its been a couple of weeks since i was craving it and each day i thought about my crush less and less until i realised, i didnt actually need that pink coat. As lovely as it is my life still continues to go on and my style isn't compromised by me not having it.
See, fleeting.





Secondly I've learnt so far is that i shop when i feel down. It's like a comforter to me a little pick me up when i feel down. Like i previously mentioned, i was having a rough week and normally in those times i would most definitely hit the shops and get myself a few bits that would momentarily make me happier, but again, that goes back to the fleeting thing, as any buzz is normally short lived and in actuality it is just another dress to add to the collection of many other dresses, or yet another unneeded scarf that will probably end up having very little wear, as after all i only have one neck.

Thirdly, as it is very much a hobby to me, i find myself with more time and just 'popping down to the shops' has become non-existent. Normally I could easily kill a couple of hours grabbing a starbucks and then wandering around the local shops, but with the no-spend there is no point (as previously mentioned). So i have extra time on my hands occasionally which is sometimes good sometimes bad. Its made me a little more of a hermit, which could also be to do with the terrible weather we've been having as shopping is a great rainy day activity with it being indoors and all. But i do find myself not getting up and out as quickly as i would have when the shops were beckoning. Plus i've drunk a lot less Starbucks.. (again my purse is pleased)





So that sounds all pretty positive in the whole non shopping thing, and i am so pleased with how well i have done thus far.
But
It doesn't totally negate from the fact that i do enjoy shopping. I love to find new pieces and integrating them in to my wardrobe, i love the buzz of wearing new items and getting compliments from nice people.
Shopping is my thing, its a pass time i thoroughly enjoy (It's like cardio with all that walking around laden with bags;) and, its also my me time.
I rarely shop with anyone else (other than my step daughter), its actually something i love to do on my own, just me and the shops.
I love taking my time perusing the rails, trying out shoes and weighing up bags.
That, i miss.
I miss walking around the shops and looking through the rails and admiring the mannequins and window displays. Of course i could still do that and i have on occasion with Mia, but the thought of not being able to buy anything is slightly dis-concerting to say the least.
Finding a hidden gem whilst scouring the rails is all part of the fun, and well lets face it, not being able to take home your new-found treasure is slightly like torture.
Recent research shows that in actual fact (like real science fact) women who shop are less likely to suffer serious depression. In accordance with sciencey people, the endorphins that are released when women shop and make purchases helps to overcome the stress and strain of day to day life.. this can only be a good thing, amiright?!
But just like the devil on once shoulder and the angel on the other, i go through the internal argument of 'Do you really need another dress?'
When does it become wasteful?
Being a 'Style Blogger' i feel i probably buy more clothes than a non-style blogger. The pressure i guess to keep things fresh and current, but remixing can make for great style too, which i have been embracing more. And, even with my hoards of clothes, i often go back to my tried and tested favourites anyway.
I do not pose to have the answers to these things, hell all i know is i miss shopping and the wonderful buzz that's goes with it.
So to summarize what i have learnt this past 50 days;
 I can do without, all cravings pass and when i do shop then maybe i should be more aware of my purchases rather than that rash purchase where you find yourself stood at the checkout with another floral dress *ahem totally guilty*.
Perhaps when the next 50 days come to an end i will go forward purchasing less often, but more quality.
What are you're thoughts, do you love to shop or shop for essentials?


Ps. Random photos are just little tid-bits of life lately, 'cos lets face it a post with photos is always nicer than a big long rambly rant from me, yes?
If you've skipped the rambly bit here's the whole post in 3 words:
i miss shopping.
Simple.

Also, since the shopping ban i have re visted nail polishs and make up. I'm trying my hand at better makeup and love painting my nails (always have), so when in need and feeling desperate i've treated myself to a new nail colour.(Having said that not all the above polish's are new but some, like the baby blue, are)


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10 comments

  1. I love shopping too, as well as the thrill of buying something new & unique. For me, it's especially a problem because I am a college student with very very limited income. I was actually inspired by reading about your no-shopping challenge, but sadly I have already caved. So lots of respect for you! I want to try again at some point; I need to try again. Keep up the good work & strength! You've got this!
    --Caroline from thisstyledlife.blogspot.com

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  2. LOVE LOVE LOVE this post! i have done multiple stints on no shopping and as im sure you know the whole year of slow fashion was only buying USED stuff...it was so hard sometimes when i would see a great jacket or jeans and even SOCKS but i got used to it after awhile. Learned myself that i liked to shop when depressed BUT ended up w/ stuff i nnever used on those trips! so now i know to only shop w/ friends/family and make an adventure out of it!!! Plus having people around always makes me spend less (except for one friend...we are spenders together!) So interesting to see all your struggles with it but you obviously have stuck to it and CAN DO IT! love it! xoxoRach

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  3. I feel like I don't even need to write my own 'halfway through the ban' post (although I probably will) because you've summed up all my own feelings so nicely here too. My lesson with the rain/snow boot debacle this past week was to purchase quality (Hunter) and versatility (good in winter AND summer) over the first pair of pretty boots I see which may leak after 1 season. I'm so glad I joined you in this ban dear and am glad to have the twitter support of the other lovelies in this with us! :)

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  4. So I must make a confession. I was all on board with your No-Spend efforts and then I caved and spent $5 on a thrifted pair of shoes last Friday! I knew I couldn't pass it up, I was searching for the perfect black booties for ages prior to this shopping fast. But I am back on the wagon! I'm glad to hear it has gotten easier for you, I feel it has for me as well.

    xoxo, The Occasional Indulgence

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  5. You've done so good I would love to do this but sometimes the want when your in the shop is to much ha but when i resist the urge to spend i never miss the thing I didn't buy!

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  6. I love this post! I've been away from the blogging world for so long that I'm now going to gobble up your entire blog with a cuppa! I've been on a no-shopping-unless-completely-necessary-stint since the beginning of the new year. At the beginning, I hated it, and felt like I was missing out on things. I too, used to shop when I was feeling down, but since I stopped I started thinking about shopping less and less. Now, I'm actually making use of the clothes I already had.... None of which had tags on I swear *cough cough*

    I can't wait to read how the next 50 days go!

    Collette
    inkedhibiscus.blogspot.ie
    xo

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  7. I think you're doing really well with this. I have been considering a spending ban for a while now but I keep puttting it off and finding excuses, like pretty new things in the shops so maybe I'll do it next month instead etc etc.
    I have to admit I'm definitely one of those people who shop because of boredom, or sadness, or whatever. I guess because I'm not really that fussed about food, I have replaced the comfort eating thing that other people fall into with comfort shopping. I often buy things just for the sake of buying them, without really thinking, or because I have a pink coat style crush like you mentioned above.
    I have also looked at my wardrobe-room on occasion and thought that I have too many clothes. By far. Then I look at Sarah's wardrobes (amilliondresses) and think "ah, it's not so bad, I'm not the only one". But I'm not sure that comparing myself to other shopaholic bloggers is quite the right approach.

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    1. i was totally the same, i don't comfort eat i comfort shop,lol. But it gets to the point where it just seemed excessive for me. I wear new clothes sometimes once and then not again for years if ever.. i mean who do i think i am, victoria beckham lol!! I think because we blog our outfits the pressure is definitely on as you feel the need to present new outfits 3 times a week in my case and they can't resemble anything you've worn previously. when in real life i do wear the same clothes more than once, lots infact. Blogger woes i guess. But i have to say the no spending has really opened my eyes to my current wardrobe and what i have a lot of and what i am lacking (which happens to be a nice black jumper incidentally, and more 'basics') i always used to compare myself to others and i always justified the amount i spent on new clothes (ie i dont go out really, dont drink, smoke or do a great deal, it was my hobby) But then i got to the point where no more could fit in my wardrobe and i had to actually stop and start wearing what i already have. Looking back i have to say i am really pleased... and trust me if i can do ( a former shopping dependant!!) you most definitely can too!XX

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    2. Absolutely with you there. I don't think I feel the pressure to blog entirely new things, but looking back at my posts, there are things which I wear a LOT and have never blogged. Which seems mad. Like I only just posted a photo of a map print dress I made which I've worn four or five times now, seems silly. I have so many clothes which no longer fit me and are still filling up my wardrobe, which means I have no space for new but I'm not inspired to wear any of those either. I'm scared to get rid of them in case I put my weight back on agaian and want to wear them in the future, which is probably silly.

      The other silly thing is that I justify it to myself, like you I guess. I don't drink, smoke etc and have never had a credit card or loan or any debts so I feel as though it's fine for me to spend what I want, so long as I can afford it.

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  8. Since becoming a stay at home mom I have had to cut down on shopping a lot. It's hard. Sometimes I can look, wish list it and go on. Sometimes I obsess! But, then I find some new way to wear something in my closet and it gets me over the hump.
    I do love your nails! Gorgeous!

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