Wednesday, 18 October 2017

#NoSpendOctober Over Halfway

A couple of weeks a go I published a post Not keeping Up with the Instajones': Stopping the constant buying and it seemed to resonate with, well, quite a lot of ladies.
I was happy to find out i wasn't alone on this but sad to find out that actually so very many of us constantly feel the need to keep up, keep shopping and making those purchases week after week, leaving many items unworn and unloved.
Women are renowned for only wearing a small percentage of the clothes they hold in their wardrobe, but with social media constantly showing us new pretty goods, the temptation to shop gets too much and we end up falling in to the habit of buy, buy, buy.
After talking about this to some ladies on Insta we formed our #NoSpendOctober group and hashtag and have not shopped for the month of October so far.
Now for those of you who have been around these parts with me for some time you'll know i've previously taken it upon myself to do exercises like this before, with two lots of #100daynospend (not consecutively i might add) and a whole year with a seasonal capsule wardrobe I know how it feels to not shop, to limit myself and to walk away from the beautiful dress thats just begging to come with you.
But the reason for me doing it this time was slightly different, as mentioned in my the previous post, i don't want to have to feel the need to keep buying the latest instagram trends all the time. I don't want to feel like i'm not as good as so and so if i don't have X in my wardrobe. And just to clarify, no one is making me feel like this apart from me. It was also a case of showing that i don't always have money or the need to justify new clothes every week. I have plenty of things i love and need to get the wear out of them.

And so here we are half way through, and as much as its not been super difficult (we've had lots on in the house with decorating and things) I would be lying if i said i don't want to shop.
The non shopping has made me evaluate what i have and what i dont have, what i need vs what i want, and that's certainly a good thing.
I've mentioned before, but i am an emotional shopper, and that goes for any emotion; Happy, i shop with glee, sad or feeling down, i shop to cheer myself up, proud or elated, i shop congratulatory to myself... you get the point.
As always though, tis been good to get some wear out of what i already own and take enjoyment in the fact that i have not spent a penny so far this month on clothes.

In total there are approximately 80-100 wonderful ladies doing #NoSpendOctober and they are all doing a mighty fine job too.
It has been an absolute pleasure to see so many ladies from so many different walks of life come together to support and encourage each other. Its also lovely to see how many of us are so like minded with our shopping habits and to not feel bad or alone in this.
And even if there have been some hiccups along the way, then we are just getting straight back on the no spend wagon with no judgement, just encouragement. Sometimes the justification of buying X makes complete sense, why would you walk away from something that you have longed for and is now half off... that would just be lunacy 😂.
This month is just about creating better spending habits going forward, less knee jerk purchases and more thoughtful spending. Its about working with what you have and adding in what you need, but obviously the occasional special item is ok too as, after all, you only live once 😉

I've created a link up below for all those wanting to add your instagram links so we can all go around and see each other and follow if you so wish.
Please add your link below (its super easy to do, click the blue add link button and instructions are given, or gimme a message and i can add you!)

But thank you ladies, you are all amazing.


Monday, 16 October 2017

Come Shop With Me: Skirts

With #NoSpendOctober in full swing (more on that in Wednesdays post) I have been wearing all things that i already own (obvs) and with no new items in the old wardrobe it has given me fresh eyes to see what i may be lacking in, what my wardrobe needs and what i don't need any more of.
One of those things is skirts. I don't have many at all and yet they are game changers when it comes to remixing. My problem is that i love buying dresses, but really a dress can only be remixed a couple of ways, and yes that all fine and good to keep wearing them the same two ways but being able to remix something multiple ways usually means I will get more wear out of it because, well, that to me is useful!
So skirt window shopping i went. Now i am super super fussy when it comes to skirts, hence why i don't have many. I usually find shops to be lacking in anything majorly gorgeous in the skirt department and there's never many i love enough for me to want to buy it.
Well guess what.. Skirts just got more interesting! Skirts seem to be in abundance this season and d'you know what there are some mighty fine options out there ladies!
Here are my findings and favourites:

I started with Next as their gorgeous window display drew me in. Inside there shop was split in to pinks and greys(which were lovely) and autunmal reds rusts and  greys. 
These two (above and below) had me swooning as soon as i walked through those doors. 
The pleated skirt is quite a thick density of fabric which makes the pleats fairly rigid and fall well, but at the same time it was very comfy and hung perfectly as a skirt should.

Below was the skirt that made me swoon BIG time. The fabric is a soft satin type finish that glides and doesn't cling, the colour is a soft rust and the flow of the skirt is beautiful. It was swishy, And therefore my swishy loving heart feels this could be true love. It worked perfectly well with my boots and the black fine knit that i was wearing, but i think with a breton, a blazer and shoes or even an orange sweater, a denim shirt or a big cable knit cardigan this could prove to be an incredible asset to your wardrobe!

A little bit of fun with some black lace and netting, i love that this can be dressed up or down and even though its a bit of mesh/tulle it could easily be worn in day or night time and it was very comfy.

This was a gorgeous khaki a line skirt, i like the idea of this for smart day time but also really nice for weekend wear too

I then headed to M&S and, once again, i was spoiled for choice! 
So the pleated midi velvet skirt is just the most wonderful fabric; stretchy, thick, and vibrant.
The skirt comes in red, gold or navy and i literally could not decide which was my favourite.
Again, these would work so well for so many occasions, dress them up, dress them down add some stripes or add some sparkle, trainers or boots they just work so very well.
But what colour would you go for??
For me the red is just christmas and festive season personified. The gold is so cheerful and daring yet will work with many things, but my head says navy is the most practical. I love how it would work with lots i already own.

 I didn't think i'd like this, but picked it up in the name of interest, it turned out to be really really nice on, it skims and flatters and adds a fun bit of interest. The print is pretty and is an item that does all the talking for you, enabling you to keep everything else pretty simple.

This was again something a little different as its not a shape i go for as a hippy pear shaped lady, but it was lovely on. Fitted at the waist and really lady like. I think i a bit to fancy for my day to day but if you're looking for something for office to bar this could be perfect.

And lastly another favourite, just because it fits like a glove. I tend to steer clear of minis these days, opting more for the midis as i find them more wearable (read: not gonna flash my pants) but there was something so gorgeous about this one, something so comfy with its thick fabric and flattering length that made me just love it. But its a statement piece that can't be remixed a whole lot of ways, but still, sometimes that's just what the heart wants.

Other note worthy skirts from M&S that i loved the look of but weren't in my size

So there we have it, a plethora of divine skirts. 
Are you a skirt fan? Do you own many and enjoy wearing them?
Do you like any of these beauties? 

Friday, 13 October 2017

Shoes that make you go Oooo #Giveaway with Mastershoe (& #Passion4fashion linkup!)

Happy Friday 13th Ladies.. unlucky for some but not today.. Fancy winning some shoes? Keep reading.

Shoes that make you go oooo, yep i love a good shoe. I would in fact say that i do have a bit of a thing with shoes. You see shoes never judge, they always fit and inevitably always look good.
It's probably why i have the entire storage under my bed filled with shoes. Shoes to me just make the outfit. Whether they be fabulous sparkle numbers like these Irregular choice babies (oh hello sparkle sparkle.. and they come in red too, Dorothy eat your heart out!) or really great practical boots like from Oak & Hyde shoes are what brings the outfit together.

Mastershoe are one of those rather marvellous online stores that stock all the brands you love and need. Want something quirky? Irregular choice have it, Practical? How about some on trend Vans, or walking the dog, well they've got you covered with a whole load of wellies to choose from with Hunter and Joules being favourites.
And what else is marvellous about Mastershoe is today they're giving away to one lucky reader a Pair of shoes from the rather gorgeous new brand Oak & Hyde.. Check these out:

The perfect Autumn /Winter boots that will go with just about everything!
The only decision is what style and colour will you go for?
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Wednesday, 11 October 2017

Lets talk underwear: Feel good factor

Undies, knickers, panties.. Today I'm gunna have a bit of girl talk with you all (hope that's ok) and talk about the item of clothing we wear every single day: Underwear.

I've had a funny old relationship with underwear over the years, often opting for cheap plain and boring undergarments that leave me feeling, well, they leave me feeling nothing if i'm honest.Neither good nor bad, they're a non thought. Often they're comfy but they are most definitely not anything pretty or to write home about.

When i saw fancy underwear stores and online boutiques i would wonder what the point was,
my pants are all the practical.

But then one day i was feeling particularly crap.
I was going through a real low phase and disliked how i looked and felt, it was a feeling that emanated outwards but started deep within.

And on that morning, instead of wallowing i changed a few things.
I reached for a gorgeous set of underwear that i usually just kept for best.
I spritzed a glorious evening scent on.
I swiped on a splendid red lipstick.

I felt like i was playing the part of someone else. Someone confident, someone who had their shit together, someone who was happy.

Through the day i could feel the delightful soft fabric of the underwear underneath my clothes and gently brushing my skin. It felt good.
Without realising i was smiling.
I felt like a different person, or me but upgraded.

Such small acts made me realise that happiness comes in different guises. And whatever it is that makes you happy or even just momentarily puts that smile on your face is worth doing surely?

I invested in more nice underwear. My husband appreciated it (obvs😂) which made me happier again. But ultimately its a small act that i do for me. In this life where I often feel like my identity is somewhat consumed and gobbled up by the many roles I have to play (hello motherhood, cleaner, cook and negotiator extraordinaire) its vital to have something for me.

And yes underwear made me realise that.
Who knew underwear could be so profound 😉
And even though some nice underwear didn't change my life it has helped change my mood. It has helped me smile from within.

Do you treat yourself to nice underwear? 
What things do you do when you're feeling low to lift your spirits?

Underwear above thanks to Fantasie Lingerie

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